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Wednesday, October 1, 2008

Ten Things I think are worth saving

The Writing of Ten Things Worth Saving

I've been by Mama Kat's again.
I like the prompts, so to the den.
I've chosen one and done my thinking.
Keys are clicking, cursor blinking.

Type it in and proof read,
another pass it will need,
not quite right, darn, take two.
That sounds odd, it just won't do.

Shuffle lines, replace that word
Another pass? That's the third!!
So, with no further ado,
I, humbly, submit to you,

the top ten list of those things I think
are worth saving. (Lord, I need a drink)

10. Your personal work. Face it, we all have our own calling. We do what we felt driven to do. After pouring yourself into your work for a lifetime, do you really want to see it disappear with you?

9. Love letters. Love thy neighbor as thy self. A good rule to live by, but if we are lucky, even for a while, we find love. True love. The kind of love that makes you googly eyed and dizzy. The kind of love that keeps you up at night, not only while you are under it's spell, but even when it is gone, burned out and moved on. The kind of love that has you writing silly poems and leaving them where she is sure to find them. The kind of love that keeps you walking that line, huh Johnny Cash?? The kind of love that makes you keep trying to be a better person, so maybe, someday, they might come home.

8. Your family history. This, despite the previous item on the list, is the one about which I want to write. All of the items on this list are significant and most are tied together, but this one sticks out for more reasons than I care to name, so I will hit a couple of the more significant ones. First, I like family photos. I collect them, I take them, I distribute them, I collage them, I power point them, I doctor them, I have even scrap booked them (don't tell the guys on the rugby team, I'll never live that one down). Second, I like genealogy. I like to hear stories of what our family has done, places we have been, people we have known. History is learning, and how do you know where you are going, if you don't know where you have been? Case in point, I submit to you the above photo. That is my mother at age two. Absolutely beautiful, eh?? It was taken somewhere around 1936, while she and her family still lived in Wisconsin. As she was the first of six sisters, I am not sure if any of her sisters had seen the light of day or not by then. But, I digress. If I had known of or seen that particular photo, I would have had one of my daughter made in a very similar pose. I now encourage all of my brothers to do the same with their children. My only sister beat me to the punch though. She gave me for Christmas, last year, a picture frame with three photos. I was in the middle, my daughter was on top and my son was beneath me. She had taken pictures of each of us in the same location, same pose, same light; and cropped everything but the face (and I mean she cropped it close). The likeness between the three of us was up-lifting. It really helps you realize that you are a part of them and they of you. I am trying to take it even further, though. I have found a picture of My mom's mom that matches one I have of my mother. I scanned the photo of my grandmother at the highest resolution I could get and went to work on it and my mothers photo. I have to get my only sister and my daughter to sit and I will have FOUR generations of the women from my family in the same picture theme. Should be awesome. I will post the results of my project and a close up of my sister's work in the near future. Much the same way as Becky was playing with her photos on her blog, I recommend this to all. You will be impressed with the outcome. Third, as you can see, I like to write. I try to record as many of the stories as I can from our family history. All kinds of stories, the good and the bad, touching or sad. I record them (secretly if I have to) and save them in my journals and writings, both blogged and hidden away. I even have all of my father's written stuff. Someday I will get his book published. Finally, I think family history is important for sentiment. And I find it hard to believe that some just don't get it. When my ex-wife left with the kids and all the boxes packed with stuff from our house, she did a pretty torough job. I'll keep it short, because I don't want to start sounding bitchy . As she was on her way out with the new tvs and the silverware and all the nice trappings that we had acquired over the span of our marriage, she failed to realize what she was leaving behind. She left her family bibles, childhood yearbooks, years of family portraits and timeless photos of many of her parents relatives. As I find these things in my house now, after living away for the last eight years, I am left wondering what to do with them as well as how she could possibly forget these things. I mean, when your house is on fire and you have time to run inside and grab a few things, what are you grabbing?? Are you grabbing the material items worth a few hundred or thousand dollars or are you grabbing those priceless memories that no pile of money can buy. At this time, I will keep them. I will even make sure they stay in her family in the future (she has one sister), but I am not sure if she will ever see them again in her life time. They say time heals all wounds, but I still have some time left apparently. And this is where I struggle with my love for self vs. love for her vs. love for her family.

7. Memories. When we think of our loved ones, whether they are gone on a trip or gone from this earth, they can never be taken from us.

6. Your family ties and friendships. Families are meant to be strong, as strong as we can make them. Blood runs thicker than mud, right? And then we all have friends who are so close they seem like family. Those are the kinds of relationships that make life memorable; solid and long.

5. Your marriage. After God and self, what could possibly matter more?.

4. The children. To me, love is willingly making sacrifices for somebody else's personal well being or benefit. "How cruelly these tiny fingers grip my heart." HGWIII

3. The environment. The Lord made this wonderful place, who are we to destroy it?

2. Your honor/dignity. A lot can happen to us in this crazy world, losing pride is one thing, but honor is the gift you give yourself.

1. Your soul. God gives each of us free will, so the task is up to each of us ultimately.


Rhonda said...

Very well said!

Melissa said...

Great list... I even share a couple of the same on my list!! I thought of "memories", but couldn't think of anything good to write about them.. Oh well!!

Jennifer P. said...

Bravo! On days like this when I'm trying to read like a hundred posts, I tend to scan the really long ones---but not this one. Read every word. Nodded a lot. I have all my ex's old yearbooks and childhood books as well. I can't believe he didn't take them. They'll mean a lot to the kids--heck! they meant a lot to me at one time too--so I know I'll keep them. But you're so right. When the house is on fire, I am NOT going in to save the television. I'm hauling out that Rubbermaid box full of 27 years of journals!

Best to you,
~Jennifer P.

Weeksie50 said...

Oh, how I love this post..

Lex the mom said...

This is a very lovely post! Thanks for the many reminders that I needed.

About genealogy - I see so many old photos of my family & wish to know more about them. My mom gets into it little bit, but not me so much. Something for me to think about.

Jori-O said...

Wow! Very deep and thought-provoking!

angie said...

Incredible list, and the ditty at the top was so fun. :)

jenn3 said...

Great list.

Drama Mama said...

Hello and Thanks for the nice compliment on my blog. Yes... I thought long and hard about the continuation of Shaggy and Batgirl. It just poured out of my head at 3am. Just happens like that sometimes! LOL!! I enjoyed your love loved your Save was Deep! So much of your list made me think to myself about...things going on in my life.

Family History is another biggie...I recently interviewed my 80 year old grandmother. I asked her several in depth questions about her life from childhood until now. It was fun hearing all the stories!

Well...keep up the good work and thanks for sharing! OH...and way to go on the Walk the Line quote...BIG fan! Now..I'm going down to read the letter you wrote to Heaven...

lifegoesbyfast said...

Great post. Made me stop and think. My family tells me I take too many pictures, but I want to remember everything and I want my kids to have them for memories.

Now that I know that picture was taken at your sister's house I find it even more interesting. I bet she is a very unique person.

Superstar said...

~eyes blinking back tears~
I stand by my previous statement that single fathers are HOT!!!!

great list!

Mama's Losin' It said...

Wow, you can tell you really took your time with this one. This list is awesome...and I am right there with you Jennifer P.

So many great things here!!

flycatcherjoe said...

it probably wouldn't be a bad idea to get all the photos scanned. maybe even send the web link or DVD to your ex.

best way is to hire someone to do it since flatbeds are slow as heck. try out (chicago) or Google for some place in your neck of the woods.